Overcompensate for nothing. Lots of women want to be painfully fucked, you think they are overcompensating for something? Not. If she doesn't want it hard and balls deep and painfully fucked to powerful orgasms then that's her. But if she wants it, she gets it from the well endowed man who is the King when it comes to sex. Period.
Sounds like you're trying to overcompensate for something. If your woman likes pain that's fine but thinking you have to hurt women when you have sec with them just because you can is a fucked mindset.
It's the power of the man with the big long dick. He digs deep, he pounds hard, often painfully but that's his duty because he has the power with that weapon and he does what he wants. It's how well endowed men are designed.